Have you ever found yourself questioning why, despite pouring your heart into personal growth, you still feel stuck? You're not the only one feeling frustrated, especially with everything playing up in the world around us. Except, the truth is, sometimes the things holding us back aren’t as obvious as we think. It's easy to get caught up in external factors, but often, it’s our own beliefs and habits that keep us from moving forward.
The real issue is what's going on in the subconscious mind—those deep-seated beliefs and habits that influence how you act and how you feel about yourself. Paradigms are these hidden influences that come from what we've learned growing up and our past experiences. They shape how we see ourselves and the world, what we believe we are worthy of, and what we believe is even possible considering our circumstances. They impact our happiness and overall satisfaction in life.
Many of us carry emotional baggage from our past — whether it's messages received in childhood about our capabilities, limitations from prior experiences, or societal norms about what success “should” look like. These inherited beliefs can make us feel unworthy of the changes we seek. When your internal narrative is filled with doubt, you inadvertently sabotage your own progress, believing you don’t deserve to achieve what you truly desire.
Worthiness is multifaceted and deeply rooted in our personal experiences and narratives of the past. Like many of you reading this, when I was young, I had experiences that significantly shaped my self-perception and sense of worth. They were messages from various sources—my parents, teachers, my bullies and the media.
From my parents—a mix of encouragement and, at times, unrealistic expectations that instilled in me the belief that my value stemmed from my achievements or how hard I worked. We had to work before we could have fun (and there was always work to do). And if my dad saw us having fun while we were supposed to be working, let's just say we did everything we could to steer clear of that situation.
Teachers— a rare few who praised my successes made me feel competent, yet those who criticized my efforts left me questioning my abilities and self-worth or there were those that didn't acknowledge me at all.
From my bullies— harsh realities that cut deep and reinforced feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. Their taunts and gossip made me internalize the belief that I wasn’t enough just as I was.
The media didn’t help either— success was defined by superficial standards like beauty, wealth, and fame making me feel like I could never measure up.
I also carried wounds from trauma. Experiences that contributed to a growing sense of inadequacy, making me feel unworthy of expressing my needs and desires. I saw myself through a lens of deficiency and fear, struggling to recognize the strengths and unique qualities that I possessed—I felt fundamentally flawed.
Wounding experiences are intertwined with our beliefs about worthiness, creating a narrative that we are only deserving of success, love, and happiness if we conform. This mindset not only keeps us from fully embracing our authentic selves but also gives rise to a pervasive fear of failure. We often hold back from pursuing our passions or dreams, believing we are not worthy of seeking anything beyond basic acceptance.
But here's the uplifting part: you and I are worthy! We always have been and we possess the power to shift all of this. Recognizing that these ingrained patterns are not set in stone is the first step toward transformation. By exploring the roots of your conditioning and reflecting on how past experiences have shaped your emotional responses, you can begin to unravel the barriers that hold you back. Understanding these influences allows you not only to recognize but also to challenge and change them.
Shifting the Paradigm
Shifting the paradigm requires introspection and a willingness to challenge existing beliefs. Begin by consciously identifying the beliefs that currently govern your life. Reflective questions like the ones below will help you gain deeper insights into your thoughts and feelings about worthiness, as well as to facilitate a transformation in how you view yourself:
- What do I unconsciously believe about my worthiness?
- What past experiences do I draw upon when faced with challenges?
- What would I say to a friend who is struggling with feelings of unworthiness?
- What is one small change I can make today to acknowledge my worthiness?
- How might my life look if I fully embraced my inherent worthiness?
Next, challenge any negative narratives by affirming your worthiness and envisioning the change you wish to see.
- I am worthy of love and respect just as I am.
- I am worthy of happiness and success in my life.
- I am worthy of taking up space and sharing my voice.
And finally, invoke upon your guides, and angels to help you navigate this journey with love, strength, and clarity. Allow their presence to inspire and comfort you, reminding you that you are never alone in your pursuit of self-acceptance and transformation.
"Thank you angels, and guides for surrounding me with your unconditional love. Help me to see myself through your eyes. I open my heart to your wisdom and presence."
Ask for their support in identifying the patterns and beliefs that no longer serve you, and trust that they can help illuminate the path toward healing. As you embrace their guidance, visualize yourself surrounded by a warm, protective light that fosters courage and resilience. Imagine shedding the weight of past traumas and negative self-talk, making space for new affirmations that celebrate your inherent worth.
By aligning with their energy, you can cultivate a deeper connection to your true self, enhancing your ability to manifest the changes you wish to bring into your life.
Remember, the journey of shifting your paradigm is not done overnight, but it is a journey worth undertaking. Embrace your strength, confront your fears, and allow yourself to flourish in the life you’ve always envisioned. The path to transformation is open to you — take the first step today.